What The F*ck Is The Point Of Life? An Unconventional Explanation

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In high school, I started a blog titled “What’s The Point Of Living Average?” (I stole that line from a Jay Z interview).

And wrote 1 post a day for 900 consecutive days.

That was easy to do because escaping mediocrity was where my head was at.

But nowadays, I’ve found myself dropping the ‘average’ and adding a cuss word and asking:

What the f*ck is the point?

Not out of sorrow or defeat (F that with a flying F), but out of curiosity because every now and then (quite rare, but it happens) I cross paths with a true master of life who has peaked “behind the curtains of life” and I can sense that they know something that I don’t know.

Even more, they’re living their life in a completely different way and prioritizing things that I may not deem important. And that always leaves me baffled and disoriented and like I’m missing the mark (even though society may be telling me that I’m crushing it).

Maybe I am. Maybe I’m not.

But that’s beside the point.

Point is everybody thinks the question: What the f*ck is the point of life? Has no verifiable, concrete, real answer.

But I don’t agree.

I’ve found through all my ups and downs, smiles and frowns, wins and losses that this question does have an answer. And you know you’ve found it when it renders the question obsolete. (If you think you have the answer, but you still find yourself asking this question… then you don’t yet have the answer. The real answer (once lived) satisfies you on all levels and renders the question obsolete).

So, what’s the answer?

I’ll walk you through it inside this newsletter, but first let me shed light on two things:

1. Why is it important to even answer this question

2. What are the two most common answers to this question (and why do I think they’re equally wrong).

Let’s start with the first question (and I’m going to make this short because not much needs to be said here)...

It’s important to answer this question because if you don’t know the point of life, then your chances of “living right” (whatever that means) are slim-to-none. It’s like playing a game that you don’t know the rules to.

How are you supposed to win?

Pretty unlikely (besides random chance) so the reason it’s important to answer this question is because the answer teaches you how to live fully. Not live in a passive, checked out, nobody is home type of way. Or even in a controlling type of way (i.e. if you don’t do x, you’re going to be punished).

But in a real way that fills your entire being with real satisfaction and real fulfillment (this is only possible to attain when you live in alignment with how life is actually designed).

But more on that later.

Now that you know why it’s important to answer this question, let’s move onto the two most common answers to this question (and why I think they’re equally wrong lol).

The first answer comes from the West.

It tells you that the point of life is to put maximum distance between where you started the game of life and where you ended the game of life and bring all your wildest dreams to life.

Why?

Because the underlying belief is: YOLO (aka You Only Live Once).

So it makes sense that the objective would be to go all out and bring your biggest dreams to life aka make millions of dollars, get a breathtaking home, find and marry the love of your life, and build/raise a family while enjoying the finer things in life (50 cent voice) – right?

I used to think so. I don’t think so anymore.

Why?

For a variety of reasons, but mostly because:

1. A lot of people do all the above and bring their wildest dreams to life and still end up depressed and unfulfilled, so it obviously cannot be the point.

2. You cannot take your kids, money, possessions with you. So it’s fun while you have it, but once you lose it… it’s like oh shit: I spent all my life prioritizing x, y, z, but now x, y, z is gone… What and who am I left with? The answer, of course, is you’re left with yourself which can be quite the scary realization.

3. I used to be obsessed with making money (still am some days). It was all I cared about. And I made a nice chunk of it. And loved seeing the numbers in my bank account go up and up and up. Then I had a near death experience. And the numbers in my bank account held the same meaning as a grain of sand. Imagine spending your entire existence worshiping and obsessing over a grand of sand… how lame would that be? Pretty lame, right? You bet.

Now please don’t get it twisted… I’m not saying the above things like running up the numbers aren’t important (they’re VERY important and worthwhile pursuits as we’ll see)… I’m just saying I don’t think they’re the point of life (meaning you could do all those things, live a great life and reach the end and realize you missed the real point of life).

So that’s the first conventionally believed answer (and why I think it’s wrong).

The second answer comes from the East.

It tells you that the point of life is to transcend human life (which is full of suffering) and to get enlightened.

Why?

Because the underlying belief is: You’ll keep being born again on the wheel of reincarnation and experience great suffering until you do.

So it makes sense that the objective would be to renounce human life, move into a monastery and meditate the days away with the aim of waking up to the true nature of reality and reaching enlightenment – right?

I never really thought so. Now I don’t think so even more.

Why?

For a variety of reasons, but mostly because:

1. It seemed like living on defense instead of offense. “Oh the only reason I’m seeking enlightenment is so I don’t have to be born again and repeat this bullshit all over again.” Motivated more out of fear than love IMO and the universe doesn’t reward cowardice.

2. If transcending human life and reuniting with the divine was the entire point of life, then why even be born? Makes 0 sense. That would be a huge error in the design of life and infinite intelligence doesn’t make errors.

3. Human life is extremely precious and such a rare opportunity to experience that if you turn your back on it and renounce the world, you’re going to miss out on the very juice of existence (big price to pay).

Now please don’t get me wrong… I’m not saying transcending human life and reaching enlightenment isn’t important (enlightenment is definitely a worthwhile pursuit as we’ll see)… I’m just saying I don’t think that’s the point of life (meaning you could do all that, be realized and reach the end and realize you missed the real point of taking birth as a human being).

So that’s the second conventionally believed answer (and why I think it’s equally wrong).

The question now becomes…

If those two answers aren’t the right answers, then what’s the right answer?

Here is when people will hit you with new age answers like:

The point of life is to create your own point or the point of life is that there is no point.

And I don’t know about you, but both of those answers sound like something a young, naive, kid that doesn’t know any better would say. Not something a mature human being aka a master of life would speak.

So those answers don’t render the question obsolete either.

With that being said…

You’re probably now thinking… if none of those answers are true, then what actually is the real answer to the question:

“What the f*ck is the point?”

And it’s a good question to sit with because most people (believe it or not) never ask this question because they think they already know the answer.

But when you start to expose the typical answers that most people unconsciously believe in like we’ve done above, then it tends to put you more into the unknown where you come to accept that you don’t actually know.

In other words:

All this time you’ve been waking up at 5am, making your to-do list, building businesses … but you don’t really know why. (You may think it’s to make money/get rich and it is, but since you don’t know the point of life… you cannot even use the money you make to assist you in the highest of ways).

All this time you’ve been playing the roles of son/daughter, brother/sister, friend, spouse, father/mother… but you don’t really know why. (You may think it’s to build and raise a happy family and it is, but since you don’t know the point of life… you cannot even support your loved ones in the highest of ways).

All this time you’ve been waking up at sunrise, taking a 90-minute walk while barefoot, hydrating with the most premium water money can buy, eating a breakfast rich in protein, using red light therapy, and putting on the blue light blockers at night… but you don’t really know why. (You may think it’s to get healthy and it is, but since you don’t know the point of life… you cannot even use your health in the highest of ways).

Waking up to this fact may be a bit jarring at first, but it’s not a bad thing. It’s a good thing because the discomfort you’re feeling is the discomfort that comes from leaving the confinements of your familiar mind.

So now that we’ve started to do that, the million dollar question remains:

“Ok Tej, enough already. What the f*ck is the point? Why get rich? Why get healthy? Why build a family?”

And I’ll tell you.

But I don’t want you to take my word for it.

I want you to simply be open to this possibility and nothing more. You don’t have to believe it. You don’t have to take any action. You don’t even have to remember what I’m going to share with you.

All I ask is you remain open to it as a possibility – cool?

If so, let me get into it by first sharing with you three personal stories from the days gone by.

Story #1

My uncle got a call on a Monday.

The person on the other side of the phone was a stranger to my uncle, but the stranger somehow knew everything about him.

Where he lived.

What companies he owned.

What new projects he was building.

And more importantly: The names of his wife and kids and the address they called home.

Scary, right? You bet, but what made it even spookier was this wasn’t just an ordinary call.

It was an extortion call.

So after relaying all the above, the “stranger” finally made his ask:

“Give me $2,000,000 or you’re dead.”

Now, I don’t know what you would do in that situation, but I’ll tell you what my uncle did:

He told the guy to fuck off and hung up the phone.

Three days later:

Just after midnight a truck with three men rolled up to my Uncle’s house and they let off 4 or 5 gunshots into the house and then proceeded to light the cars parked in the driveway on fire.

Then they sped off.

(Everybody was home, but thankfully nobody was hurt.)

Five or so minutes later:

My uncle received a text.

It said: “Those were warning shots. Next come the kill shots. Pay up. Or else…”

Then came through a video attachment that depicted the gruesome murder of a prominent local businessman who was allegedly killed just weeks prior by these same extortionists.

So needless to say, the stakes were quite high.

Or at least, that’s what the extortionists wanted my Uncle to believe because this whole operation runs off fear.

But my Uncle wasn’t the type to give into the fear.

So he did what any rational person (not run by fear) would do:

Got the police involved, hired private security for the house, and called a “spontaneous” family vacation and left the country to an undisclosed location.

Meanwhile while all this was going down…

I was housesitting for my parents who live just minutes away from my Uncle’s house. But completely oblivious to all this.

Until my mom called me and asked:

“Did you watch the news?”

To which I replied, “I never watch the news. Why?”

“Your uncle’s house was on it.” She replied. “It got shot up last night by extortionists.”

“Oh shit.” I remember thinking or saying. I wasn’t expecting to hear that because I normally just live in my own world. So to hear that was surprising and quite concerning.

But it kind of was what it was.

So I did whatever I could do to help (which wasn’t much) and left it at that until a couple days later…

When another businessman’s house in the area was targeted.

Then another. And another.

It got so bad that the government had to declare the extortionists a terrorist group and put a chopper in the sky to police the city.

But that’s beside the point.

The point is I remember being surrounded by all this chaos and just being on edge for a number of days (sleep was pretty hard to come by as the smallest of noises would wake me in the middle of the night and I’d go downstairs to look at the cameras).

So much so that I inquired into it with one of my teachers.

And after relaying the facts and the potential dangers of living in the prominent area I was currently residing in…

She said something that felt like a “peek behind the curtains of life” moment.

What did she say?

“It’s important to take the necessary safety precautions and stay alive… so you can continue working on yourself.”

For whatever reason…

Those words hit me quite deeply and made me feel as if there’s a lot more going on here (and at stake) than what we’re normally conditioned to believe.

In other words:

You’re not just alive for the sake of being alive.

With every day that we’re alive, there is a very special opportunity to seize for those who have the eyes to see.

Or at least, that’s how it landed for me.

So that’s the first story.

Now time for the second story.

Story #2

For the latter half of Jan and the better part of Feb… I flew to the other side of the world… and took in 3-4 weddings of friends and family (just before shit got crazy in Dubai and caused havoc to all the flights coming out of that area).

And that was cool.

But leading up to it…

I remember having a conversation with somebody that I consider to be a true master of life and I was giving em the play by play of my upcoming travels.

And after I was done…

I remember him smiling and saying:

“That sounds like a lot of fun and weddings are great and to be enjoyed, but there’s certain things more important than that *eye wink*. So don’t forget about the Work and keep making it the singular priority.”

To which I thought (in all honesty):

“Maaaaan this mofo is lowkey ruining the trip before it even begins.”

But a deeper part of me knew what he was pointing to. Weddings, vacations, exotic travels, fancy hotels, adventures, fine dining, days in the sun are important and to be enjoyed, but they’re not necessarily the point of life.

All these exist on the surface and if you remain attached to these things, you remain at the surface. Yet a deeper current resides below the surface and this deeper current is more important to get in touch with (ironically enough this deeper current is also what allows you to enjoy the surface level contents to the fullest).

So that’s the second story.

Now onto the third and last one.

Story #3

I got an unexpected call earlier this month telling me that my cousin was on life support/medically induced coma and it wasn’t looking too good, so if I wanted to see him before he passed… I needed to race to the hospital at once.

So I did.

Once I got there, the doctor had just given my family members the final report which essentially said:

There’s not much we can do anymore. He is dying and only has 48 hours left (at most). All we can do is make him comfortable, so that’s what we’re going to do: “Make him comfortable.”

And emotions aside, the last line fucked with me.

Not because it was a new line. I had heard it many times before whenever I found myself in the hospital next to a loved one who was transitioning to the other side.

So that’s not why it fucked with me.

It fucked with me because as I kicked it with my cousin for his last 48 hours on earth I couldn’t help but wonder:

What’s the difference between my cousin who is laying here before me on a ventilator and dying and everybody else (including myself)?

The obvious difference is we’re still alive and breathing and moving around while my cousin lay before me unconscious and was only able to breathe through the ventilator.

But deeper than that:

I couldn’t really find a difference because just like the doctors and hospital staff were doing whatever they could to make my cousin “comfortable” before death came to take him… wasn’t it true… that this is what everybody else (including myself) was doing in the world too? Making ourselves as comfortable as possible before death came knocking?

I don’t know if that’s true for you, but I could see how it was true in my own life.

Not only that, but while standing in that hospital room I couldn’t help but feel that spending a lifetime prioritizing comfort was such a foolish way to live. As if it was disrespectful to the real purpose of life.

So that’s the third story.

Now with those three stories in mind, you’re probably left wondering:

“Ok, so what exactly is the point of life?”

And I’m finally ready to tell you.

But it probably won’t make much sense to you until I explain it, so let me tell you the point of life and then explain it (before you use the familiar mind to dismiss this as bullshit and close yourself off to this possibility).

Coolio?

If so, here goes (*drum roll*):

The point of life is evolution (everything else is secondary). But not evolution in the normal “scientific” frame because the world out there isn’t really a world out there, but a world in here that is just a dream. Evolution meaning the evolution and growth of your individual consciousness.

This evolution is made up of two components:

1. Self realization – Waking up to the truth of who and what you *fundamentally* are. Hint: It’s not the character you see in the mirror.

2. Self actualization – Actualizing your true nature in your everyday human life (not in a monastery or a cave) because human life (with all its beauty and challenges) is the ultimate arena for rapid acceleration.

Now with that in mind, you’re probably left thinking:

“Ok, but how does this differ from the conventional meaning of life we discussed earlier related to the West and the East?”

And it’s a fair question.

Both these perspectives, you see, are only half right.

In the East, the concern is all about self realization so they dedicate everything to realizing the truth of their nature which is a worthwhile pursuit, but the abandoning of human life robs them of true acceleration and growth because living a true human life is how you actually learn to embody and hold your realization (it’s not enough to be a master in the monastery, you must learn to become a master in the market). Not only that, but living a real and meaningful human life to the fullest is what leads to real fulfillment, juice, and infinite glory. So to pursue realization without actualization is going to wake you up to Divinity, but not to the personal fulfillment that comes from actualizing Divinity through your human form (which is the entire point of taking birth as a human being).

On the other hand:

In the West, the concern is all about self actualization so they dedicate everything to experiencing the “contents” of human life such as relationships, achievements, career, adventures/travels, raising families, business building, impacting others which are all worthwhile pursuits, but they’re doing it through the false and distorted identity of the personality without knowing the real truth of who and what they are. This, in return, results in them “gaining the world” but still feeling empty and deficient inside because the real source of fullness and satisfaction is not the world, but your true and ultimate nature. Without realizing this nature (aka pursuing actualization without realization), you not only remain asleep at the wheel and disconnected from your real power, but also miserable, depressed, and in pain (unconsciously).

So with the above explanations in mind, we can now conclude that the REAL path to living fully integrates both self realization and self actualization.

In other words:

If you want to live this life to the fullest and truly fulfill the meaning of life, you have to commit to:

1. Waking up to your true nature

2. Actualizing this nature in the world by embracing all the contents (relationships, carer, health, adventures, challenges/problems/stressors) that makes up human life (aka being your nature IN the arena)

If you just focus on one, you only live 50% optimally and miss out on the other 50% of gold.

SOOOO…

Now that you know that, I want to present you with the REAL *use case* and purpose of your money, health, and relationships. Then, I’m going to conclude this letter by bringing your attention back to the three personal stories I shared earlier. And explaining their real significance.

Coolio?

Let’s go (I know this letter is getting super long but stay with me here because this is very important).

The real purpose of health

I know a lot of people that have dedicated their entire life to health. They lift weights, eat clean, walk 10k+ steps, drink the best water, sleep 8-9 hours, and look and feel absolutely amazing.

But the real question remains:

Why?

In other words:

What’s the point of having good health?

It sounds like a stupid question because most people think the point of having good health is so you can stay alive for longer (without falling ill to disease) and maximize your time on earth – right?

I don’t agree.

Fuck is the point of staying alive for longer if you’re just going to spend your time doing bullshit? I’d argue that somebody who lives 25 years, but fulfills the meaning of life is ETERNALLY better off than somebody who lives 120 years without realizing the point of life.

So with that stated:

You’re probably thinking…

“So should I not focus on improving my health?”

And that’s not what I’m saying at all. Good health is very important, but it’s not important because it necessarily allows you to live longer. It’s important because the Work required to realize your True Nature demands a lot of ENERGY and good health provides you with exactly that.

So the real purpose of health isn’t to look good naked (which is fine), but because it gives you the ENERGY you need to wake up to the truth of who and what you are.

Now that you know the real purpose of good health, let’s move onto money.

The real purpose of money

If the point of life is evolution and this consists of self realization and self actualization, then you may be thinking:

How does money fit into the meaning of life?

And it’s a fair question.

Most people think money either plays a very BIG role or NO role at all, but IMO both perspectives are wrong.

Money plays a small, but very CRITICAL role.

What’s the role?

Twofold:

1. It allows you to buy back your time, so you can dedicate it to waking up to the truth of who and what you are (self realization)

2. It allows you to buy *access* aka training by the masters of life who have peeked beyond the curtain and seen life for what it truly is: the ultimate arena for rapid acceleration, growth, and fulfillment

Without this, money really serves no purpose besides getting you more comfortable before death comes knocking. But with this use case, money becomes an extremely VALUABLE resource for your ascension. Such is why I’ve always encouraged people to get into online business because it allows you to not only express your nature, but also achieve time, location, and $$$ freedom which are extremely useful for achieving the real purpose of life.

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Quick side note:

I know a few people that have sold companies for hundreds of millions of dollars and then after they get depressed and sad. After moping in the sadness for weeks or months or years, they think to themselves: The reason I’m sad is because I’m not building anything. So then they start another company, sell it, and repeat this entire dilemma all over again.

This to me is quite foolish because you remain stuck at the same level.

The reason you’re sad is because you’re looking for the world to give you what only your nature can. So the real solution is not to build another company and repeat this process all over again, but to leverage your money towards self realization.

This is the only way to actually experience the glory you seek (the sadness/depression is feedback from life that you’re currently missing the mark. So take the data into account and adjust your approach).

(This doesn’t mean you cannot build another company. Building another company is a great way to actualize your nature in the world, but it’s important to actually be in touch with this nature otherwise your actions aren’t real actions that deliver real nourishment, but empty actions that are mechanical and just food for evolution).

Ok now that you know the real purpose of money making and achieving time/location freedom, let’s move onto relationships.

The real purpose of relationships

Many people think the entire point of life is to bring children into the world and raise a happy and healthy family and this is great, but it leaves so much on the table because it doesn’t really fulfill the real potential/purpose of relationships.

The real purpose of relationships is twofold:

1. Support the real in your loved ones and assist them in waking up to their true and infinite nature.

A fake friend/spouse/parent supports your ego/personality.

A real friend/spouse/parent supports you.

The above may just sound like a clever change in words, but it leads to a drastically different outcome in personal relationships.

2. Use your relationships to actualize the qualities and capacities of your true nature.

The entire point of relationships is you get to ACTUALIZE who and what you truly are (and when you do, you experience real fulfillment, joy and delight that only comes from being who you truly are).

In other words…

Remember how I said it’s not enough to be a master of life in the monastery, but you must become one in the market if you are to fulfill the real meaning of life?

Well, this is what I mean.

It’s easy to be in touch with Presence (your True Nature) and experience the qualities of love, kindness, strength, power, creativity, joy that makes it up when you’re solo dolo, but can you express those qualities at the dinner table? What about in the boardroom? What about in the hospital room?

Maybe. Maybe not.

(I personally cannot… yet.)

But this is where the “Work” lies.

Ok now that you know the real purpose of health, money, and relationships… let me bring this letter to a close by briefly touching on the three personal stories I mentioned up above (and illustrating their true significance).

Story #1

When I was going through it and my teacher said: “It’s important to take the necessary safety precautions and stay alive… so you can continue working on yourself.”

What did she really mean?

She meant that you’re not alive for just the sake of being alive. You’re alive because life brings the rare opportunity for self realization and actualization. This is something that most people ignore entirely, but it’s such a rare and precious opportunity so do whatever you can “in the world” to support yourself so you can then direct all that power/time/energy/resources towards self realization and actualization.

This is the highest ROI lever to pull.

Everything else pales in comparison.

Story #2

When I was sharing my upcoming travels and the master of life responded with:

“That sounds like a lot of fun and weddings are great and to be enjoyed, but there’s certain things more important than that *eye wink*. So don’t forget about the Work and keep making it the singular priority.”

What did he really mean?

He meant: “Don’t let the glitter of the world put you to sleep again. There’s nothing wrong with the above, but if the above is all you focus on… then you live unconsciously and miss out on the real juice of existence that comes from living fully/consciously. To live consciously is to be in touch with your nature AND enjoy your time in the sun. The latter without the former is not heaven, but hell.”

Story #3

When my cousin was slowly dying in front of me and the doctor said:

“All we can do is make him comfortable”

… and the line fucked with me…

Why did it hit so deeply?

Two reasons:

1. I realized that’s what most of humanity is doing (while they wait for death)

2. Dedicating your life to just being comfortable was a foolish way to live because at death all you take with you is not the spoils of your comforts, but the degree of your realization and actualization

Not prioritizing this is thus missing the mark because death unfortunately isn’t a get out of jail free card.

This poem by Kabir titled “The Time Before Death” articulates this beautifully:

“The idea that the soul will join with the ecstatic just because the body is rotted – that is all fantasy.

What is found now is found then.

If you find nothing now, you will simply end up with an apartment in the City of Death.”

So with all that stated, you now know the real significance behind these three stories and what they’re pointing to.

All that’s left to do now is realize and actualize the point.

Thanks for reading.

Your friend,

/tej

P.S. The reason I talk about online business/copywriting is because it allows you to build time, location, $$$ freedom. The reason I talk about spirituality/consciousness/awakening is because it allows you to direct all your resources/energy towards achieving the ultimate aim:

Self realization & actualization.

P.P.S. I spent a lot of time drawing attention to the realization part of the equation because that’s where most people (including myself) are lacking, but this doesn’t mean actualization isn’t equally important. The entire cosmos is designed because True Nature wanted to experience itself through human form so the worldly contents are equally important.

In other words, God wanted to taste ice cream (substitute ice cream with whatever… writing, creating, building, having sex, running marathons, jumping out of planes, birthing babies, going on dates, making money, etc.) and the only way to do it was by creating You.

So don’t renounce the ice cream.

Enjoy the ice cream, but do it in a real way ;-)